Thanks for this reply. Being GenX isn’t the bed of roses some folks believe it is. I find myself reading more physical books these days than I ever before. Kind of just to take it all in at less than a blur. It’s all whipping by at breakneck speed.
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I don’t think I can blame Anon. “Should we try it out?” isn’t exactly stirring my passions, either.
Under the circumstances, it sounds like “you’re my least terrible option left, so maybe I can settle for you. On a trial basis, of course.” Uh, no thanks.
Bold of you to think anons story is real and straight
It’s more fun to play along, and unless I’m missing something, I kept it gender neutral.
Anon is on the internet. No girls there.
Anon had a girl interested in fucking him: fake.
Anon turned down a girl that wanted to fuck him: gay.
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"I think you are the only man I can trust, should we try it out?"
Things that were never said for $2000, Alex
You had me until you brought up how many guys she fucked. Grow up anon
I mean... he took his shot with her 5 years ago, was rejected and then stayed friends while she went through all those other guys to then come back around and try to settle for him. I can see how he'd struggle with that. I'd probably feel like a last resort in that situation too. Also I think this story is rage bait so don't get to invested.
it's definitely incel ragebait.
It’s pretty clear to me that anon carefully crafted this story, no matter how much of it is actually real, to cast himself in the best possible light and show this woman as evil. It’s telling that in doing so he didn’t even realize that it reflected poorly on him to shame her for having sex with someone who wasn’t him.
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But have you considered that anon can't count past 2 so everything else is countless.
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There’s nothing wrong with not wanting to date someone years after you had feelings for them. However the body count reference gives me the incel ick.
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IMO anon’s statement about body count was badly phrased, but it makes sense for me under limited circumstances.
For the last few decades, my opinion has held firm on a simple philosophy:
If I never ask out a woman I’m interested in, and they date guy after guy, then I have nothing to complain about. They never knew about my interest, and so they were never given the chance to accept or reject my interest. There is no way in hell that I could hold their body count against them, and I have only myself to blame for not stepping up and asking them out when I had the chance.
But if I do ask a woman out, and they clearly and immediately reject me in favour of someone else, then I am obviously not an interest for them. They have clearly and unambiguously rejected me, so what standing do I have to not believe that? You can’t get a more sure sign. If they then rack up other relationships, each and every one of those is another nail in the coffin of any potential relationship. They have made an explicit statement that I am of far less desirability than other options, and that door closes permanently, and gets barred and locked for good measure.
Because if she comes sniffing around again, then it is screamingly obvious that I am not her second-best, third-best, or even n^th best option… I am her backup-backup-backup plan that she is “settling for” because all of her better options ran out.
And at that point… thanks but no thanks. That’s a path down which I have absolutely no desire to trod, because down that path lies doubt and second-guessing that can only poison me, my mental health, and my happiness. If she had no interest in me when I asked, then I will absolutely trust her for having told me the complete truth, and I will hold that truth as unchanging, unimpeachable gospel.
Except that people do a lot of growing in their late 20s and early 30s. Both parties likely changed in personalities, priorities, and experience. The man she rejected years ago is likely not the same man she is attracted to now, nor is she the same person as her priorities have likely changed during that time too.
i will attest to that. my wife and i met when we were... 20? I always thought she was cute, we were always friends, but we didn't go on a date until we'd been friends for about ten years. the both of us kept moving in and out of our hometown, crossing paths here and there until the second summer we were both there for more than two weeks at the same time. we finally went on a date, hit it off, dated for about six months, realized we weren't going to get to know each other much better, rushed into marriage, blah blah. if we'd dated when we first met, we'd have broken up after a month. neither of us was mature enough for a stable, adult relationship. pretty sure it has nothing to do with how compatible or who we are, or who we've grown into. i was (and still am, just not quite so much i eat a lot) a little dork
Except that circumstances change. So you might feel that now, or for most people, but you don't need to make it a vow, because who knows what the future will bring.
It's understandable why you would feel that way.
People change all the time though.
Perhaps after some of those relationships, they found personality/stability to be more important than looks.
Or maybe they've spent years regretting the decision, and the short relationships along the way failed because nobody could compare to you.
Or maybe they genuinely are as shallow as you think, and you're the last resort in the dating pool.
You can never really know for sure.
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I am replying to your reply to this post so that I don’t earn the ire of absolutely everyone. And perhaps I will not even earn yours. Perhaps… you will find some sense in what follows.
There was an unspoken rule for Gen-X — it was in many ways as you have described here. If you got rejected by a girl… that door was closed. And there wasn’t really room for friendship. If you got burned by a girl, you moved on and didn’t even pretend to like them. Done.
You could have friends that were girls if they had boyfriends you liked. If they had boyfriends you didn’t like, you could be friends with a girl you were attracted to, but only so that she might discover you.
Where I believe I run afoul of Millenials and Gen-Z is where I remind folks we just didn’t have a lot of girls who were just friends… we considered this a fantasy or just waiting.
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Anon got over their crush and got on with their life, nothing wrong with that at all.
Besides, it sounds like they're about option J here, and it's perfectly okay to not be happy about that.
That happened. And then everybody clapped.
Actually this kind of thing happens often enough. The exact words vary, but if people live in low population locations, wait a decade and you'll be surprised at who gets together.
Ya, I'm coming up on my 40s in a smallish city. This not only seems plausible, I've seen it (a less dramatic version anyway) play out a few times.
I mean it's greentext. That part is always implied.
@Early_To_Risa This situation makes me think of the Meatloaf song "Two Out of Three Ain't Bad". There's an interpretation of the song that the first part of it is about a man who tried to love a woman, yet he was turned down. Later in the song, the man is talking about how the woman has come back to him years later, but he has moved on.
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