BlastboomStrice

Well, I tried.

I refused to use messenger for about 6years and I tried to bring people to signal (at least ~most of my family still uses it), but after changing environment and essentially doing a semi-fresh start, I realized I had to give up some (much) privacy to have any social life.

I'd really like not to have such a dilemma, but I dont think I would go very far with ~zero social life (would probably have strong depression, no friends and possibly many other issues).🥲 Fb is ~forcing it to us.

At least while I might have lost some privacy, I help others gain privacy (I help them use/find open source, privacy respecting alternatives to various programs).

Also, Signal really didnt help me convince people use it by requesting a phone number... Its hard to convince people that dont care much about privacy and want ease of access to give their phone number to an unknown app (I know it's not that big of a deal, but they dont know what I know and dont care much even if I explain it to them).

PS. I'm still not making an insta account tho😅

This guide I wrote about downloading and tagging might help you :) https://mander.xyz/post/13720820

Maybe they don't want women to vote at all..

Aw, thank you for your help

all those talented female lyricists and R&B singers who got Thanos snapped out of existence in the late 90s because they didn't want to sell sex

I dont know much about 90s music😅, could you please share some of those lyricists and singers (or suggest any of their songs)? I'm interested in listening to some of their songs :)

Kinda sad that I wasn't much aware of this issue..

I think of all platforms, Webtoon maybe has the best voting system (and I don't even have an account there, I saw it from a friend, lol):

It doesn't allow you to vote on your comments and it shows both upvotes and downvotes seperately.

On the other hand, having the freedom to vote your comments seems nice too, so I'm not very sure which system is the best..😅

It's a loop

Smart move the latter, ~didn't think it.

About the former, I recently realized in practice that it's important to pick up activities etc. that you like and that attract people you can bond with. For example I like weightlefting at gym, but I realized it attracts so many people with repulsive ideologies, while I tried dancing and mobility classes the same gym offers and the environment was much much better, I found many good people there. (I still do weightlifting though and I found some good people there too.)

Plus, voicing your opinions helps a lot to filter people (I'm struggling a lot with this though).

Lol, people here do a lot of assumptions. I typically do like ~9k steps each day, I spent a lot of time outside, go to gym etc. but 1)having hard tasks to do and 2)spending a lot of time alone (alone meaning without interacting face to face with real friends) for various reasons contributes to this.

Awww, hope you make it eventually

I'm just checking my social media apps for any new messages and maybe droify for updates. After checking them in the morning I kinda think to myself that now job is done and any more time I spend of my morning on them is kinda wasted. Checking social media from time to time and speaking with your friends seems kinda healthy, but doomscrolling is kind of a waste after a point (happens if I'm too bored to start my day).

The thing is, after I check all these, I might go in a loop due to boredom (boredom may have many many reasons behind it). When I have tasks to do or I'm in a period that my friends and I are busy, this is more intense. The phone is an easy and portable distraction. All these contribute to an increase of phone usage (currently I'm in one of those situations and phone usage has increased probably by at least 50%).

Aw thank you. I that it's a thing people do here on lemmy so I thought about doing it too.