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That is neat on getting your kids into a better online environment where development isn't purely incentivized. But surely you must know that's not the end-all of a kids user experience when being online. You're not always gonna have them on just your setup either, they will be at their friends and on foreign devices. There's unfortunately not much you can do in that instance without making a huge fuss.

Is everyone just young without kids and had free reign on the internet and got by ok so it's more relaxed to you? Were you in a situation where middle school and that age have direct communication to each other? I know teachers and other parents with horror stories of the shit that comes out. It's mostly what would be considered old school frat boy or fraternity shit but at a way earlier age, some grow out of it but I imagine others just carry on since it never effected them and then we wonder about the trolls who exist on social media lol.

lol I don't want to get lost in analogies, but these sweets are in their pocket. Their friends are giving them new brands and better sweets. You know what sweets you have in the cabinet, you have no idea how many sweets your kid is eating per day. This is all pretty generic through when considering the entire childhood. Of course you're gonna be there and watch your kid so they're not over doing it at age 4, but 12+? Eh, it's an uphill battle you should stay vigilant on till they're legally and showing at least basic adult responsibility.

If you're nearby your kid when you're in the park or they're at school interacting with other kids (etc), you're gonna be curious and want to make sure they're doing alright but just kinda peripheral paying attention to their actions while mingling yourself. It can be treated respectfully and non intrusively by just checking your router (other devices), what kind of traffic is coming in and out (generic safety), and maybe something along the lines of just asking to see their app activity in their account to get an idea of how they're spending their time without diving right into their private data.

I don't really understand the disconnect going on here and maybe everyone is a lot more innocent than I was. I for sure was up to some bullshit online at a young age and that was dial-up. We're really looking at everything like how the election went, social influencers, and young people getting radicalized online and just throwing our hands up saying it's all good?

Oh boy, good luck with that outlook in today's age. You can trust them to get into shit, I believe helicopter parenting has become prevalent because we've lost the "village" it takes to raise a kid. You used to be able to trust a parent to step in if they were over at someone else's house and a discussion got nasty or a fight broke out. You would have neighbors who looked after the kids and would let you know if they were up to some shit. Now the kids talk on discord and other apps, completely unsupervised or at times even inaccessible (after the fact) if they've set it up right. You've got algorithm's trained on millions of users to suck your kids in, never ending entertainment with minimal effort.

As a parent, who is completely conscious of everything going on around social media and technology, you will absolutely need to step in. Most adults can't even handle it, you WILL have to be the parent who sets boundaries on the stimuli their brain craves but has a negative impact on their overall health. You don't instill healthy eating into a child by giving them unlimited money and telling them to make their own decisions. You work with them, share your experience, let them cook sometimes but monitor over and see the results of their activity. Are they making healthy choices or ordering door dash?

Make it more difficult for them by setting restrictions they have to learn to bypass, even if it feels ridiculous it's a whole different setup for effort-reward. It will interest them into getting into deeper components of technology and how everything works. It's absolutely what kids are suppose to do, just like we always figure out a way to get away with shit which ultimately improves various skills.

It always makes me wonder what delicious flavors nature has provided that I'm missing out on. Just like Banana's in the states, we have a "main" variety of apple which is "Red Delicious" (it's just a name, not delicious). This abomination is the prettiest picturesque apple you've ever seen, but it tastes like cardboard compared to any other apple species. I wish we still had access to all the different varieties of banana's that used to be around but guess we've fucked that one up.

who's y'all and what are they trying to convert you too? Are 'they' in the room with you right now?

Glad you aren't addressing any of the critiques and just gonna continue living the meme. Also, you should learn that there's a neat little feature called sorting, there's a controversial selection that's really handy for shit takes to pop up in the first few comments!

I'm most definitely looking at the complainers right now to see if they're actually listening or have just been harping the same shit for a year and now trying to blame everyone else for the problem. We need to flush out this "woe is me" crap, as if people haven't been wondering for decades how they're going to be protected or how could democracy possibly survive in such a capitalistic and corrupt system.

D's lost, I wanna get back on the field and train with new strategies and directions. There's just a bunch of butt hurt locker boys who wanna complain about members of the team instead of learning to work together in a different way.

Oh no, mean spirited comments that don't actually add anything useful!!

This you?

BuT BiDeN nEeDs To EaRn My VoTe!

If we manage to avoid a fascist takeover, it will be in spite of the naive progressive idealogues who think they have the privilege to vote their conscience.

It's.... almost as if you do need to earn people's votes after all. Everyone already spelled everything out to you almost a year ago on changes the Dems could make but still you're wondering what Step 2 is?!?

Dems: We've tried nothing and are all out of ideas!, Third party, absolutely not!

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it's a shitty design? From a company worth over 3 trillion, that gives them extra shitty points.

allow me to be the batshit representative from lemmy.ml to argue with you :P

Honestly, I just hate the instance bashing. Most people didn't have a real informed "choice" when it comes to their first instance. This seemed like an instance with good uptime and connectivity to me compared to the single admin instance I had before, the only factor that really matters to me. I see what you're saying about % of users, but those people exist on every instance and like you said, they can just jump over and make a new account. If I'm being judged by the .ml next to my name and not the content of my reply, then they were really never going to listen to anything I had to say regardless, so I've decided to stay with this instance.

I think you're seeing more arguments on those instances because it's more of a melting pot. People who all agree with each other's perspectives and have similar life experience aren't going to have a lot to discuss besides patting each other on the backs and talking about subtle nuances of the subject matter. I do agree with your entire premise of the downvotes, which is why I'm replying to begin with. I like the thought of a downvote system, something that would hinder off-topic or abusive material, but it's just horribly abused by users.

A proper system would see two competing articles and the one which provides the most information with a legible format would be upvoted the most. Now it's which one has the most comments, what user uploaded it, what website was the article published on, which headline is catchier regardless of the article's own words being taken out of context, what instance/community is this being posted on, etc etc.

Maybe I'm just confused and using this site and reddit wrong. From my conversations about downvotes, my understanding is less time is being spent on reading the article or links, and more just running through upvoting/downvoting like it's tinder matches. I don't get it because it's not like youtube suggestions where you're creating an algorithm for your likes/dislikes. You're just creating a general feed of populace attention-seeking content and creating the pattern for a hive mind to form.

I think any of the many solutions would be a step forward, votes being public (all your other interactions are public/not done anonymously, and likes/dislikes has no commonality to democratic voting so people need to stop conflating the two), blocking any downvotes like lemmynsfw.com successfully implemented (you can still report off topic, etc), can only dowvote in joined communities or content you've engaged with, and many other ideas. All sorts of solutions that will stop us from going down the same path as Reddit, luckily we have instances to experiment different approaches with that we can point to for data in the future. I guess I prefer more of a forum style but those always get overtaken by zealous admins/site ideology and eventually hyperactive community members meaning it's hard or not worth the effort to actually engage with the drama surrounding the subject you want to discuss (even some shroom forums get like this, absolutely crazy).

I'm not sure on the technical aspect but I think "instance blocking" should be an OPT-IN message sent to users of the instance. For example, say lemmy.world wanted to block lemmy.ml, hexbear, and reddthat. Each instance is added to a "Suggested blocked instance" setting in your profile and a message is sent to the user notifying them the opt-in option is available. Could have a whole list with descriptions besides the instances for why the suggested block option is there. Users would be informed with an actionable option and not automatically opted in. Could just be a toggle-able switch list in user settings.

If you're not being purposefully obtuse I'll save you the time from what the argument is. Wealth of his magnitude is a detriment to society, doesn't matter if he's saint Joseph or the pope. You're saying "he's the best kind", deflecting from all of them being bad. If you don't see that, then it's fine. Just an economical opinion on where to go with society from the stalemate we seem to be in regarding workers and compensation.

I do feel like you're being blind about the nepotism definitions though, you don't need 200 billion from a family slush fund to qualify. The very act of what their parent's profession is changes networking and exposure opportunities. Doesn't matter if Daddy has ethical values, the name recognition and reputation you're proclaiming gives an advantage.