That one person is a gem and we should appreciate them. They noticed you got talked over, and made sure to circle back, noticeably so the others don't do it again, to make sure you weren't silenced. It shows they not only noticed, but were bothered by it.
Treasure those people, and be those people.
Because nobody ever accepts more work or responsibility for higher pay to afford more or better things. Most people work just enough to pay for rent and groceries and are perfectly happy with that.
I got a puppy when I was first starting an Airman Program (prior to becoming an aviator in my branch of the military), and one of my daily responsibilities was getting fuel samples and fueling aircraft, so every day when I came home I smelled like jet fuel (which smells like it's generating constant low level damage as long as you're smelling it... because it is...). Now my dog loves the smell of jet fuel and loves it when I smell like jet fuel.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is, if Stockholm Syndrome is an option, that aeroshell 64 smell could work for you.
(This is entirely a joke, I'm not advocating any situation outside of pets that would result in Stockholm Syndrome)
Holy shit, just looked that up, and it has layers to it. Based on the rest of their comments in the thread, I'm sure it wasn't intentional, they probably had no idea of the origins and meanings (I certainly didn't), but man is that one problematic.
Just a reminder to those "Biden and Harris are participating in genocide, it's not like Trump could be any worse" crowd.
It can always get worse.
When life gives you oranges, don’t make orange juice. Make life take the oranges back! Get mad! I don’t want your damn oranges, what the hell am I supposed to do with these? Demand to see life’s manager! Make life rue the day it thought it could give Anon oranges! Do you know who I am? I’m the man who’s gonna burn your house down! With the oranges! I’m gonna get my engineers to invent a combustible orange that burns your house down!
I don't consider it a defense, exactly. It's more clarification. Just saying "no kids" might suggest he doesn't want kids ever, which would reduce the potential partners unnecessarily (and if he does want kids eventually, being paired with someone specifically because they don't want kids would just create problems later). Saying "no kids yet" sets them up with someone who doesn't have kids but might in the future.
There are more appropriate ways to say this:
"Nobody with kids. I might want kids some day, but I'm not ready yet, and it feels like there would be too much pressure to either be involved with her kids or be cut out of a major portion of her life until we're really serious. And again, not ready.
And somebody athletic, since I'm into biking and hiking and other activities that require a certain level of fitness.
And... well, somebody who isn't into the whole casual sex thing, honestly. I think sex is special and, for me, requires a strong emotional connection. I want someone who has similar views on sex."
See, I feel like it changes it when you're not focusing on the other person, but yourself. I'm not ready for kids, I'm into fitness, I'm a demisexual. It sets up the same thing without disparaging people who aren't what you're looking for.
Seriously, the part about him coming in to ask her when a project was finished and eventually yelling that he needs a date sounds like she was waffling, waffling, waffling, and he was asking for a simple answer he could work with.
"I need to know an estimate of when you'll have this portion of the project completed."
"Well, there's this thing that's having problems with this, and we're working through this. This other thing..."
"I understand, but I need a timeline so we can give the other team an idea when to expect it."
"So the thing is, there's this portion of the project..."
"For the... I NEED A DATE! A DATE!"
"That's sexual harassment."
Seriously, try being the candidate talking shit about an astronaut and decorated servicemember. "I like people who stay on Earth." Well I don't!
It made it so I couldn't play the game, because my computer didn't meet the spec requirements.
Not saying it was a bad call. My computer was old and shitty, but now I'm out another $900.
I'll never understand how difficult people make things by not being forthright and making things awkward:
"Is it okay if I bring my boyfriend?"
"...I think there's been a misunderstanding. I had asked you on a hike as a fun first date, I didn't realize you had a boyfriend. I'm going to bow out of this, but I can give you the hike info if you want to take him." And then you laugh about the misunderstanding the next work day, and keep things at work from then on. No reason for it to get bad. Flirting is still fun! Just leave it at that without expecting anything more.