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Please don't expect the community to give you answers to your questions which you then delete right afterwards. Those of us who put time into answering your questions are not doing so just to serve your personal needs, we are here to help build a community knowledge base that others can search and reference.

This has become a chronic issue with Lemmy and its starting to feel like it's a waste of time to answer questions.

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[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 1 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

I don't get it. why are they deleting their posts?

[–] ThomasWilliams@lemmy.world 1 points 5 minutes ago

Because the moderators will ban them if they don't.

[–] goferking0@lemmy.sdf.org 27 points 4 hours ago (1 children)
[–] rumba@lemmy.zip 10 points 3 hours ago (1 children)
[–] goferking0@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Looks like it's hybridsarcasims favorite rule

[–] Zamboni_Driver@lemmy.ca 2 points 14 minutes ago

Wow crazy I couldn't imagine that this community gets enough posts to warrant so aggressively enforcing rules about the content.

[–] gedaliyah@lemmy.world 5 points 2 hours ago

Yes! This drives me crazy. I will sometimes go back and edit posts to add more info months later.

We have all been in a situation where we are looking for a very specific answer, and the answer only exists in one obscure forum from a decade ago that has the exact info we are looking for.

It's hard enough to ensure lemmy's long-term fidelity without people axing their own content.

[–] anon_8675309@lemmy.world 12 points 4 hours ago (1 children)
[–] merde@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 hour ago

Quote ppl you answer.

indeed

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 23 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

Hadn't noticed, but wow. I wonder what the motivation is to delete info that would help other people.

[–] frongt@lemmy.zip 16 points 5 hours ago

"fuck you got mine"

[–] ripcord@lemmy.world 4 points 3 hours ago (2 children)

There are a couple of accounts who were doing this regularly for some reason on all sorts of different topics. But I would need to see more evidence of this happening. As someone else mentioned it could be mods or a couple rare cases or all sorts of things.

[–] mesamunefire@piefed.social 2 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

I wonder if someone is trying out an AI or something and seeing the results. Then deleting. More evidence will pop up eventually.

[–] mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 27 minutes ago

My guess was that it’s users who fundamentally misunderstand federation, and think that deleting their comments will prevent them from being scraped or used to ID them later. In reality, if someone was truly concerned about avoiding doxxing, they’d just switch accounts. Because anyone can spin up a single-user instance, federate to scrape content from all the communities they want, and then simply refuse to respect delete requests.

Because when you delete something on a Lemmy instance, the instance simply sends a delete request to all the other instances that federated with it. But those other instances can easily ignore the delete request and retain the deleted content for as long as they want.

That’s also part of why it’s so stupid that AI crawlers are scraping Lemmy and thrashing instance owners’ rate limits. The AI crawler could just set up a new instance and automatically gather the content via federation. But instead, they just send crawler bots. Because fuck the instance owners, I got my content either way and using a crawler bot didn’t require me to learn how federation works.

[–] zuana@lemmy.world 2 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Lately in all of the lemmys like each time I go to look at my replies (if I ever get one), the reply, my comment, and the thread are all gone. I'm often thinking it's mods just nuking threads because of inflammation or whatever.

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[–] go_go_gadget@lemmy.world 8 points 4 hours ago

Holy stackoverflow effect batman!

[–] lka1988@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (2 children)

Unfortunately, this is nothing new. Forums have been dealing with this for decades. XKCD even made a comic about forum posts going stale.

[–] IratePirate@feddit.org 10 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

Not really the same issue. The xkcd is about unsolved or incompletely resolved issues. This Herr is about questions vanishing along with the answers.

[–] rumba@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 hours ago

missed opportunity to post https://xkcd.com/-1/

[–] Senal@programming.dev 5 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (3 children)

I imagine this is a controversial opinion....but isn't the idiomatic solution to this to either:

petition the mods to get this rule added and enforced

or

To start a community that enforces this rule and let it compete with this one.

Isn't that the whole idea of federation?

[–] irmadlad@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

petition the mods to get this rule added and enforced

I'm keen to know how that would be written much less enforced. # deletes and you're out? That's a lot to keep up with unless there were some automated way of doing that.

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[–] uuj8za@piefed.social 21 points 6 hours ago (2 children)

dick move.

Which users are doing that so I can block them?

[–] mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 22 minutes ago* (last edited 20 minutes ago)

Pretty sure lots of the “deleted” posts were actually removed by the mods. Rule 3 seems to be a popular justification for post removal in this community, and it basically outlaws all of the “my server is having this issue, anyone got any ideas” types of posts that OP has cited.

While I agree it’s popular for removing posts, maybe it shouldn’t be. If we want users to organically find Lemmy, one of the best ways to do that is the same way users end up at Reddit: By googling an error code, and finding a five year old “Edit: I figured it out. Here is what I did” post.

Or maybe we just need to make (and properly support) a community that is dedicated to those kinds of posts. If a “my server is broken plz help” post isn’t relevant to /c/selfhosted@lemmy.world, maybe we need to make a /c/SelfHostedSupport to redirect the Rule 3 posts to.

Yeah I think this is a tool worth having for mods. Maybe going through deleted posys and seeing who are repeat offenders.

To me, that isn't building a community, that's extracting from one. It's no better than AI scraping. You got your answer and then keep it for yourself.

[–] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 117 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (17 children)

It doesn't make sense, either. There's no rational reason to delete a thread after the question has been answered.

Even if it wasn't actually a person but was an AI agent asking questions so it can scrape the data from the answers, there's no real utility in deleting the posts after receiving responses. It just seems so weird.

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 9 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

Somebody pointed out that the person might be afraid they gave so much info that their post gets de-anonymized - but IMO people afraid of that shouldn't post on public forums to begin with.

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[–] queerlilhayseed@piefed.blahaj.zone 10 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

I have mixed feelings on post deletion. On the one hand, historical technical forum conversations are an incredibly valuable resource, and /c/selfhosted is a technical community. The value comes from having a history in context, and deleting part of the context damages the whole and makes the whole corpus less useful overall. It also allows incorrect or outdated information to fester when there isn't a strong historical context that can be referenced.

On the other hand, people are right to be concerned about leaving large tracts of text available on the open internet, where it can be scraped, profiled, and possibly de-anonymized. I am very sympathetic to those who delete out of concerns for their own privacy, and I don't know what a good solution is.

Maybe a compromise would be (on user "delete") to leave the contents of a post intact, but simply delete the username from the post, and the post from the user's history? Deletion on the fediverse is a bit of a sham anyway, and it would leave valuable discussions intact for other users.

[–] Deebster@infosec.pub 2 points 2 hours ago

If people want to ask something that they don't want tied to them, they should use a throwaway account. Scrapers will probably grab the text quickly (especially if they're using ActivityPub) so it's a false sense of security to do it days later.

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 13 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (6 children)

I think a good solution would be to create a community specifically to connect people who don't want to share their posts and people willing to provide individual help. They could find each other and DM a conversation. Milking a public forum for advice and then vandalizing it by deleting the post is definitely NOT a good solution, and I do not share your sympathy for people who do that. It's like curtaining off a few back rows of a bus to use all day as an office - although that could have been funny in a Seinfeld episode.

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[–] irmadlad@lemmy.world 16 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

I haven't noticed many posts deleted by the user themselves. I see a lot of 'deleted by user' comments. I try to remember to put [SOLVED] on any serious post I make, after the fact. That way, someone searching can cross-moginate whatever their issues are with what solved the issue for me. Maybe the user deleting the post once it was solved is embarrassed they asked a supposedly 'stupid' question?

[–] pinball_wizard@lemmy.zip 8 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

I try to remember to put [SOLVED] on any serious post I make, after the fact.

You (and folks who do the same) are unsung heroes. Thank you.

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