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trying talking about your feelings as a man and see how society reacts...
spoiler: it won't be pleasant.
sort of like how these men in the article are talking about their feelings...
Its damned if you do, damned if you dont. Society simply doesnt care about men. Ive rpetty much stopped commentong on here because society makes me so damn depressed, i want to reach out to anyone but no one wants to hear it. Better yet, if i just "stopped being toxic", the world would magically change to where people suddenly cared about not just me, but anyone other than themselves.
Idk man imma delete my account p soon. Theres nothing for me on the internet or in society. Once i get enough money together to get supplies taken care of, imma just try and distance myself from other humans.
"wherever you go, there you are." I know it's cliche and yada yada, but distance won't solve suffering.
Yeah that's what toxic masculinity is. People (men and women) hold toxic views of what a man should be, and punish men for staying from this ideal.
You were a victim of toxic masculinity when you shared your feelings and were then victimised because of it. The people you shared your feelings with were toxic assholes.
am i a victim of air because I have to breathe it? or a victim of capitalism because i have to work to pay my bills?
there is no getting outside of it. every 'woke' person i've ever met also hates men for sharing their feelings, almost as if they are just virtue signalling...
the only person who a man can ever open up w/o consequence is a therapist, because it's a professional paid relationship.
sucks, but that's how it is. and nobody is interested in changing it.
Look, not everyone has the desire and capability to fight. I will say that I've had good success these last few years being vulnerable with other "woke" men and it's been very freeing to share things I thought I experienced alone but to see that other men have gone through similar things.
I haven't had a lot of success being vulnerable with women, but I'm getting to the point where that is a boundary for me. I'm not going to pursue friendships with people who can't accept me for who I am and who reinforce toxic gender roles.
I've personally witnessed a lot of progress on this end and I'm excited to seeing more and being part of it when I can.
I'm glad you have a therapist, everyone needs someone they can share with.
Sorry you haven't met someone who isn't an asshole on this front.
Toxic shitheadedness is insisting on that victim blaming phraseology.
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This is odd to me, because talking about my feelings is how I got close to romantic partners. It's also how I formed a lot of friendships with other men. How can you be close to someone if you don't talk about feelings?
Which feelings?
Very few feelings are allowed. If you keep to those social acceptable feelings, you're fine. The second you go off-script, people are done with you.
Like I can pet my dog and say I love her. That surface level stuff is fine. But talk about anything complex, like the struggles we've had, or how she helped me through some depressing periods or she had a period of sickness and anxiety and misbehavior? People freak out and back away or tell me to shut up and go get a therapist and get my dog one too.
Men are allowed a very narrow and shallow range of public emotion. Basically anger, and sentimentality are acceptable. Anything else? You're creepy, weird, or mentally ill.
If you go outside that box or show complexity or vulnerability, you're socially rejected because it makes people 'uncomfortable.'